Lift Off
Off the Wall - May 22, 2009

When I learned recently that one of the two most popular months to marry is right around the corner, I decided now would be the time to write this column.

Not too long ago, I emailed Keith E. Lewis, Latrobe’s master photographer, and asked him the question, “What is the most popular month to get married?” I was surprised to learn that there are two months, June and October.

Of consequence, I decided to dedicate today’s “Off the Wall” to those who plan to tie the knot in a couple of weeks. To illustrate what goes on before and after the “big day,” I will use the analogy of a rocket ship to a relationship for all intended purposes.

Let’s begin by imaging this huge structure in an enormous warehouse. All the parts are assembled nearby ready to be put in the proper places in the space ship. Likewise, each part can represent persons all gathered in one room mingling together. Through the connection of one instrument to another, the unit comes together. With the interaction of one person to another, a relationship forms. As more components are joined together, the mechanism begins to take shape. As persons get to know each other better, chemistry unites an emotional tie. After a lengthy period of time, the ship is completed. Thus it is with people, a love has been created, visible to all.

The rocket is taken to the launch pad and set into place. Once the couple is ready for marriage, a ceremony takes place. There has been preparation for both the big days. Concerning the rocket, people will gather on the outskirts of Cape Canaveral and wait for its blastoff. Pertaining to the couple, onlookers will gather to watch their nuptial tie.

When lift off is announced, connections are disengaged from the ship. After marriage occurs, “A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home, and they shall travel on to where the two shall be as one,” as the Wedding Song goes. What is seen when the rocket leaves the pad are flames coming from its engines. What the two are feeling from within are burning passions taking them forward in limitless directions.

As the shuttle is thrust forward into the wide open spaces, the newlyweds find themselves involved with each other, going on that special honeymoon where each will be able to enjoy the other in an unlimited unselfishness of love for each other.

But when the spaceship gets so high, something extraordinary happens. No longer does it stay as one unit. The booster rockets fall away and the shuttle to thrust forward to enter space. Such is life when the couple returns from the honeymoon and mainstream living sets in. If both are employed, each will return to his and her jobs. All the glamour of preparing for the wedding, going on the honeymoon, enjoying each other’s company in a place far separated from the families is history, plain and simple.

As that plane enters a zone where there is no gravitational pull its operation is dependent upon the knowledge of the astronauts whom will steer the craft in the direction they want it to go. No longer will the new couple be playing house together. Each made a commitment on their wedding day, not only to the other, but to God as well, that they would “have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” They must trust in God to help them from the day they announced, “I do,” to every living day they spend together.

And as the space shuttle will spend its undetermined time in orbit, so will the couple be together, united by and with God as long as they adhere to biblical principles listed in Corinthians. These include patience, kindness, not showing jealousy, always seeking the other’s interests, watching one’s temper, and not rejoicing over wrong doing. Love “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Just as a spaceship, each duo started out as a package deal. The aircraft may have been projected into the air with a hopeful destination. Married couples, too, should strive for hope, for along with God’s help, they will reach new heights for many years to come.

Article by:
Paul J. Volkmann
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