You Prude!
Off The Wall, July 16, 2010

Recently, I started examining my feelings concerning my outlooks and wondered if I was any different than a lot of friends and others throughout the world. So, I did what I’ve been known to do in the past, put out a survey. This is how it read: “Do you consider yourself a prude. In addition to having those responding stating “Yes” or “No”, I also asked into what age group each fitted in addition to church affiliation and any comments.

I find the outcomes to these surveys intriguing. Here we go. Twenty percent of those revealing their inner most emotions told me, “Yes”. On the other end of the scale, 80% checked “No”. Those making declarations included 73% Roman Catholics (not including yours truly) and 27% Protestants. Those who voluntarily disclosed their age included 40% between the ages of 40-59 and 27% over 60.

And so I begin with the many comments that came via cyber space. First, I’ll start with the Catholic views.

Dottie Dobson, Clearview, OH, stated, “The dictionary defines prude as “One who is excessively concerned with being or appearing to be proper, modest or righteous.” I don’t consider myself excessive about anything except maybe eating too much. I like to have fun as much as the next person and have been known to walk on the wild side within limits and know that most people have less sins than me, so I’d never be righteous… All I can do is try to do the best I can and that’s all anyone can do.”

Betty Burkel, Bloomington, IL, divulged, “I can understand how some lifestyle changes occur with each decade/century, etc. So, I try to think less conservatively, and try to ‘go along” with the changes UNLESS they are unlawful, indecent or absolutely DISGUSTING. I cannot and will not accept abortion, having children without marriage, abusive behavior. I don’t like piercings, although a 29 y/o whom I had “judged” by his lip and nasal piercings to be rather unsavory, has turned out to be a really “nice guy”. So, that’s why I try to keep an open mind to the changes this life of ours offers to us.”

Goldy Graham, Memphis, TN, pointed out, “I don’t consider myself a prude, but I don’t like dirty jokes, movies, magazines, language, etc.”

California resident, Molly Vogel, said, “ My husband might think differently, but I don’t consider myself a prude – modest perhaps, but not a prude.”

Nothing came closest to my feelings than this email from Nancy Amherst, Detroit, MI who placed an X next to “Yes”. “Yes, I care about being proper in the sense of modest dress and chastity. This stems from my religious beliefs and scientific data. Religiously and scientifically speaking, people are happier and healthier when married or when growing up with married parents. People tend to be happier in monogamous relations, people have less health issues, less unwanted pregnancy, when they wait until marriage for sex.”

Recently, I started examining my feelings concerning my outlooks and wondered if I was any different than a lot of friends and others throughout the world. So, I did what I’ve been known to do in the past, put out a survey. This is how it read: “Do you consider yourself a prude. In addition to having those responding stating “Yes” or “No”, I also asked into what age group each fitted in addition to church affiliation and any comments.

I find the outcomes to these surveys intriguing. Here we go. Twenty percent of those revealing their inner most emotions told me, “Yes”. On the other end of the scale, 80% checked “No”. Those making declarations included 73% Roman Catholics (not including yours truly) and 27% Protestants. Those who voluntarily disclosed their age included 40% between the ages of 40-59 and 27% over 60.

And so I begin with the many comments that came via cyber space. First, I’ll start with the Catholic views.

Dottie Dobson, Clearview, OH, stated, “The dictionary defines prude as “One who is excessively concerned with being or appearing to be proper, modest or righteous.” I don’t consider myself excessive about anything except maybe eating too much. I like to have fun as much as the next person and have been known to walk on the wild side within limits and know that most people have less sins than me, so I’d never be righteous… All I can do is try to do the best I can and that’s all anyone can do.”

Betty Burkel, Bloomington, IL, divulged, “I can understand how some lifestyle changes occur with each decade/century, etc. So, I try to think less conservatively, and try to ‘go along” with the changes UNLESS they are unlawful, indecent or absolutely DISGUSTING. I cannot and will not accept abortion, having children without marriage, abusive behavior. I don’t like piercings, although a 29 y/o whom I had “judged” by his lip and nasal piercings to be rather unsavory, has turned out to be a really “nice guy”. So, that’s why I try to keep an open mind to the changes this life of ours offers to us.”

Goldy Graham, Memphis, TN, pointed out, “I don’t consider myself a prude, but I don’t like dirty jokes, movies, magazines, language, etc.”

California resident, Molly Vogel, said, “ My husband might think differently, but I don’t consider myself a prude – modest perhaps, but not a prude.”

Nothing came closest to my feelings than this email from Nancy Amherst, Detroit, MI who placed an X next to “Yes”. “Yes, I care about being proper in the sense of modest dress and chastity. This stems from my religious beliefs and scientific data. Religiously and scientifically speaking, people are happier and healthier when married or when growing up with married parents. People tend to be happier in monogamous relations, people have less health issues, less unwanted pregnancy, when they wait until marriage for sex.”

The devout Roman Catholic parishioner continued, “Nothing shocks me any more about our society, but it does offend me because I think it offends our Lord. It doesn’t change the great deal of love He has for us, but He knows the destructiveness of our dress and actions and out of love for us He is deeply saddened when we denigrate our dignity by the choice of our dress and actions. Mary always appears fully covered…so does Jesus, so I take that as an example when choosing the way I dress. We are temples of the Holy Spirit and we are gifts to our spouse. Our smile belongs to the world, but our bodies belong to the Lord, and our spouse. We give it freely to them in marriage…and, hopefully, not after we give it freely to many, many others. It isn’t right to judge, never are we to judge, that is up to God…esp. now, when kids are raised without thinking about modesty…they are often not culpable for the way they dress because they were not taught to dress differently. The responsibility lies in the media, the fashion designers, the stores, and the religious organizations not standing up for purity, and the parents!!”

Now go ahead and say it – “You prude!” Right off, I’ll tell you I hate the way women dress today. I’m for the way the Amish women dress. I don’t want to hear women criticize about “plumber’s cracks” either. It just may be that they are displaying the same sort of thing on their upper fronts of their body. Now, put that in your pipe and smoke it!


- Paul J. Volkmann
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